20 Guidelines to Affair Proof Your Relationship

Experiencing emotional or physical betrayal in your relationship is extremely painful.

Give yourself the best chance at preventing infidelity by being clear on what you need from your partner in order to feel secure in your relationship. Remember to honour what’s right for you since your relationship needs might be different from the needs of others.

Once you’ve established what your relationship needs are for security, communicate these to your significant other. Examples might be “I’m not okay with my partner going outside of our relationship to get his or her needs for attention and affection met” or “I’m not okay with my partner spending time with someone that has a romantic interest in him or her“. Make sure you’re both on the same page in terms of what is and isn’t cheating. Informing your mate about what’s right for you is a form of boundary setting.

It’s not enough to simply make your needs known.  You must be willing to re-evaluate your relationship and take action if your partner is unable or unwilling to respect what makes you happy.

In order to avoid mistrust consider not doing anything that you would feel uncomfortable doing in your partner’s presence. A betrayal isn’t simply engaging in sexual intimacy with someone outside of your relationship, although that would definitely be a betrayal for most. It can also include confiding intimate details about yourself and your relationship to someone else, choosing to spend quality time with a person that makes your partner feel insecure and excluding your mate from important events in your life.

I’ve come up with the following 20 Guidelines to Affair Proof Your Relationship to help you sustain a strong and happy connection with your partner:

1.   Have Regular Date Nights

2.   Make Time for Sex

3.   Flirt with your Partner

4.   Frequently Go to Bed at the Same Time

5.   Keep Your Life Interesting and New

6.   Laugh and Have Fun Together

7.   Be Affectionate

8.   Call At Regular Intervals to Check In

9.   Develop Meaningful Traditions

10. Be Happy As An Individual

11. Remain Attentive and Connected

12. Put 100% in to Your Relationship

13. Don’t Let Resentment Build

14. Make Your Partner Feel Important

15. Be Appreciative

16.  Focus on The Good in Your Relationship

17. View Your Partner as Your Equal

18. Boost Your Partner’s Confidence

19. Let Your Partner Know What You Need

20. Be Emotionally Honest With Each Other

It helps to remember that you can’t control your partner but you can significantly influence the level of security and happiness in your relationship and create the best possible environment for its long-term success.

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  1. Susan, these 20 guidelines to affair proof your relationship are spot on. You have done a great job in highlighting the key aspects to focus on in any couple relationship. And as Relationship Coach myself, these are some of the main aspects I strive to work on and repair in sessions. Great Share, Thanks For Posting This.

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Susan Blackburn

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Susan Blackburn, M.A., C.Psych. is a Registered Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Therapist in Toronto at Yonge Eglinton, a Published Author and a guest Relationship Expert on radio and television.

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Susan is the owner of Susan Blackburn Psychology a boutique therapy private practice located in midtown Toronto at Yonge and Eglinton.

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