Susan Blackburn Psychology

Relationship Boundaries

Successful relationships are created by two people that have a clearly defined sense of self.

This strong sense of identity includes knowing what your values are, what you like, don’t like and how you want to express yourself through friendships, family relationships, your profession, a romantic partnership, hobbies, and pastimes.

Having strong boundaries indicates where you begin and end relative to where others begin and end and ensures that you are clear about which thoughts, feelings, and ideas are your own and which one’s belong to someone else. These limits act as a bridge between you and others instead of operating as a wall, which is too rigid, or a doormat, which is far too passive.

Walls are created when you feel victimized, disempowered and hurt in order to prevent others from having emotional access to you while doormat behavior is used in an attempt to gain love and please others. Both of these states are the antithesis of love as love reigns when you’re free to be yourself. Instead, boundary setting enables you to protect and celebrate your differences at the same time.

When two people with healthy boundaries interact, they inspire authenticity, interdependence, and joy. They know that intimacy and trust are possible and that relationship challenges can be worked on cooperatively.

This desired state requires knowing that sensitivity is learned and can be replaced with assertive and confident behavior over time. It includes honoring your feelings and intuition, letting go of your erroneous beliefs about yourself, others and the world and releasing the past while focusing on the creation of the life you want.

Boundaries enable you to connect to others with confidence through appreciation and respect for your own unique perspective, personality, and presence in relation to that others.


Susan Blackburn

Susan Blackburn

About Susan Blackburn:

Susan Blackburn, M.A., C.Psych. is a Registered Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Therapist in Toronto at Yonge Eglinton, a Published Author and a guest Relationship Expert on radio and television.

Susan enjoys working with people to enhance the quality of their lives. Her collaborative psychotherapy and counselling approach offers clients effective tools and strategies to increase happiness, manage stress, find balance, improve confidence, embrace self care and focus on the positive so that they can relax and enjoy life.

Services are covered under most extended health benefits and workplace insurance plans requiring clients be seen by a Registered Psychologist through her registration with the College of Psychologists of Ontario.

Susan is the owner of Susan Blackburn Psychology a boutique therapy private practice located in midtown Toronto at Yonge and Eglinton.

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