10 Tips to Improve Non-Verbal Communication for a Happier Relationship

You probably know that effective verbal and non-verbal communication is an important part of any happy, committed relationship.

But, did you realize that 93% of your communication with your partner is non-verbal?

Non-verbal cues include body language such as posture, muscle tension, eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, actions, decisions, breathing, attitude and tone of voice.

According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, a professor of Psychology at UCLA, 7% of communication is what is actually said, 38% is tone of voice and 55% is body language.


Since non-verbal communication is such a significant part of the interpersonal dynamic between you and your partner, focusing your efforts here is the key to increasing closeness, building understanding and promoting trust between the two of you.

To get you started, I’ve put together a list of things you can do to create the relationship you desire.

My Top 10 Tips to Improve Non-Verbal Communication for a Happier Relationship

  1. Be Affectionate – Hold hands, hug and always kiss hello and goodbye
  2. Smile Lovingly – A genuine smile conveys happiness with your relationship
  3. Be Patient – Cultivate an attitude of acceptance
  4. Play Together – Be your partner’s recreational companion
  5. Be Flirtatious – Use your eyes to show desire and admiration
  6. Create Rituals – Share a cup of coffee and have a weekly date night
  7. Listen Attentively – Give your full, undivided attention
  8. Be Thoughtful – Leave a surprise note or small gift for your partner to find
  9. Show Devotion – Put your phone away when you spend time together
  10. Greet Warmly – Show excitement and joy on the phone/text and in person


Susan Blackburn

Susan Blackburn

About Susan Blackburn:

Susan Blackburn, M.A., C.Psych. is a Registered Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Therapist in Toronto at Yonge Eglinton, a Published Author and a guest Relationship Expert on radio and television.

Susan enjoys working with people to enhance the quality of their lives. Her collaborative psychotherapy and counselling approach offers clients effective tools and strategies to increase happiness, manage stress, find balance, improve confidence, embrace self care and focus on the positive so that they can relax and enjoy life.

Services are covered under most extended health benefits and workplace insurance plans requiring clients be seen by a Registered Psychologist through her registration with the College of Psychologists of Ontario.

Susan is the owner of Susan Blackburn Psychology a boutique therapy private practice located in midtown Toronto at Yonge and Eglinton.

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