Susan Blackburn Psychology

Relationship Cycle

Has your relationship ever been going along smoothly and all of a sudden you find yourself overreacting and getting all out of sorts?

Does this ever happen right before your period?

The amount of energy running through your body at this time is intense. It can feel like you’re in an emotional pressure cooker. What you might not know is that this energy is a heightened amount of life force flowing through you.

When it’s not channelled properly, it can easily turn into angry outbursts, frustration, tears and an overwhelming sense of losing control. This amplified amount of life force is also known as your essence, spiritual power, sexual energy and creativity; they are largely synonymous.

This creative power is what allows you to build relationships, problem-solve, organize, paint, write, make music, transform your house into a home, share loving feelings, create harmony, make love and so much more. Without exception, everyone has access to creativity, but in many women, it’s largely untapped and needs to be drawn out.

Understanding how your monthly cycle influences your energy allows you to decide when you are better off doing one thing over another.

Creative energy is expressed differently throughout the four main phases of your cycle. Discovering how to use your life force as it ebbs and flows each month will allow you to create a happier partnership and more abundant living.

If you become tense, impatient and emotional right before your period all it takes to set you off is a mistake, a sarcastic comment or an eye roll from your partner.

To keep yourself and your relationship in balance during this time, take more time for solitude, pamper yourself… get a manicure, massage, or facial. Channel your frustrated energy into creative pursuits such as journaling, drawing, cooking, dancing and organizing. Take a bath with Epsom salts and essential oil. Eat healthy, energizing and calming foods.

Plan this time in advance so that you’re not caught off guard.

If your partner is willing, allow him to remind you to take time for yourself. Avoid having emotional conversations and making relationship decisions at this time. Be good to yourself.

The best time to get connected and become emotionally closer to your partner is approximately 11 – 14 days after the first day of your period. At this time nature supports as you as you’re hard-wired to be emotionally close and warm.

For greater understanding and benefit within your cycle you can adjust your schedule to harmonize with your body.

Pre-ovulation: Intellectual creativity is dominant and includes clarity, future planning, understanding complex ideas and learning new things – don’t solve relationship issues during this time, as you’ll be too emotionally detached;

Ovulation: Emotional creativity is heightened and yields compassion, relationship problem-solving and teambuilding;

Pre-menstruation: Raw creativity abounds and brings about inspiration and powerful ideas – give shape to these ideas and allow for bigger and better ones to flow by writing them down and sharing your thoughts – take time for solitude; and

Menstruation: Spiritual creativity reigns and drives reflection, meditation, discovering deeper levels of life purpose and making an important relationship and business decisions – formulate goals at this time and plan them out in the next pre-ovulation phase.

Allow your cycle to support you in reaching your personal and relationship potential by getting in touch with your inner world and by becoming comfortable with your body and feelings.

Make peace with and embrace your femininity so that you can discover your essence, resolve your challenges and create a fabulous life. You are so worth it!


Susan Blackburn

Susan Blackburn

About Susan Blackburn:

Susan Blackburn, M.A., C.Psych. is a Registered Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Therapist in Toronto at Yonge Eglinton, a Published Author and a guest Relationship Expert on radio and television.

Susan enjoys working with people to enhance the quality of their lives. Her collaborative psychotherapy and counselling approach offers clients effective tools and strategies to increase happiness, manage stress, find balance, improve confidence, embrace self care and focus on the positive so that they can relax and enjoy life.

Services are covered under most extended health benefits and workplace insurance plans requiring clients be seen by a Registered Psychologist through her registration with the College of Psychologists of Ontario.

Susan is the owner of Susan Blackburn Psychology a boutique therapy private practice located in midtown Toronto at Yonge and Eglinton.

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