If your significant other is lucky enough to have your company for Valentine’s Day, go into it without expectations. Expectations have a way of giving way to disappointment when things don’t go exactly as you planned.
Instead, be in the moment and choose to focus on the positive.
Plan to appreciate, trust and respect him or cherish, desire and make her your #1 priority.
Ensure you actually ‘have it to give’ with whatever you give.
This means that if you don’t get a thank you, a return gift or any appreciation you won’t mind because the pleasure for you is in the giving and not the exchange. For example, if you’re preparing a fabulous meal and your beloved doesn’t show up or is late, you won’t mind because the pleasure for you is in the preparation and how wonderful it will taste when you sit down to enjoy the meal. If you discover you gave something and you ended up being disappointed the antidote is always extreme self-care. The more you give to you, the more you can give to the one you love, genuinely, expecting nothing in return.
Spending it or Hoping to Spend it With Your Significant Other and Being Tempted to Tear a Strip Off of Your Valentine
If you’re expecting someone special to get you flowers, candy, jewellery, take you to dinner or even simply wish you Happy Valentine’s Day and this doesn’t happen either at all or to your liking, handle it with kindness and respect. This is the time to choose being happy over being right. Consider saying “I’m sure you didn’t realize how important Valentine’s Day is to me (or how much I wanted such and such etc.”, ” I’d really love to celebrate it together even if it has to be another day”. Don’t spoil your day and/or an otherwise good relationship over a Valentine’s Day faux pas.
If you’ve planned a romantic night out on the town, and your Valentine comes home late, is tired and is less than enthusiastic about your plans, instead of losing your mind, consider saying something like this. “I don’t know if you realize how excited I am to spend Valentine’s Day together. Even though we’re off to a late start, I’d love to put it behind us and make the most of it”. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Why? Well, because it works! If you feel it’s important to stand your grand, in a kind and respectful way, say “I’d love to get a phone call next time so I can change my schedule if needed.” (and leave it at that).
If your beloved falls asleep before you can make love (ouch), definitely don’t let this ruin your evening. A conversation of any sort is obviously out! I know you’ll be tempted to wake your partner up and I would encourage you to reconsider. Make love to yourself instead (seriously, it’ll be more rewarding than anything you’ll get from your partner – and don’t take it personally – imagine how exhausted your partner must be to resist you!).
Spending the Big Day with You
If you’re lucky enough to be spending this day alone, decide to make it a good one! Some ideas to celebrate include going out with friends and having a blast, curl up with a good movie that’s guaranteed to make you laugh, spoil yourself in the way that only you know best, volunteer to help others out and spread love in the world, make your favorite meal complete with appetizers and mmhm… Valentine’s dessert. If you desire a significant other in your life, loving yourself wholeheartedly is the surest way to make yourself magnetic for ‘The One” that’s out there. “The One” can’t find you until you open your heart and really start living!
On that note, here’s to you and to celebrating love. Happy Valentine’s Day!