This is a continuation from my previous post Influencing Him with Your Light: Part I

If you’re shining like a 300-watt bulb, not only CAN you influence change in your man, but you WILL influence change in him. At this vibrational level of love and light (they go together) your heart will be open enough to heal, influence, inspire and guide anyone in your presence (even at a distance).

It takes a lot of TIME and plenty of SELF-CARE to shine this brightly, but making the commitment to increase your light is the best thing you can do for your relationship, career, health, friendships, family and finances.

Everything within relative proximity is influenced either positively or negatively by your vibration.

According to Dr. Wayne Dyer, in his book, ‘The Power of Intention’, “One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of optimism and a willingness to be nonjudgmental of others will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.”

So, it stands to reason that if you can influence 90,000 people, given the skills, time and patience you can influence just one such individual… your man.

In preparation for this challenge, see if you can pinpoint the level of light you’re currently resonating at:

300-watt: You shine brightly in your life. Your strengths and gifts are evident and you use these talents to their maximum capacity. You value your intuition and are optimistic and willing to be nonjudgmental of others. People from all walks of life are drawn to you by the sheer brilliance of your light and you smile easily and openly with others. You live your true purpose and passion in service to others and find your work not only stimulating but gratifying. You are attractive (inside and out), magnetic and a joy to be around. You’ve learned how to consistently maintain and rejuvenate your light by controlling your thoughts, surrendering to a higher power and placing an emphasis on being love rather than doing love. You feel balanced, grounded and whole.

You protect your light by being conscious of people, places and things that zap your energy and take appropriate precautions. You take immediate action to recharge when you’re out of sorts. You spend time in nature, do things you love, appreciate and cultivate your playful spirit and child-like qualities, spend time with people that inspire you, honor the healing benefits of sleep and high energy foods and have a daily (or even several times daily) meditative or reflective practise such as journaling, painting, dancing, yoga, nia or tai chi.

200-watt: You shine clearly in your life. Your strengths and gifts are evident, but you’re uncomfortable being a leader so you dim your light to make others feel comfortable around you. You value your intuition. Others are drawn to your light and you smile easily and openly with others. You live your true purpose and passion in service to others, but you hold yourself back in fear of criticism and/or success. You are attractive (inside and out) and magnetic most of the time.  You’re inconsistent with your thoughts and behaviors so your light flickers at times. You understand the power of your thoughts but your chosen lifestyle doesn’t always allow you to stay in touch with your wisdom. You may have surrendered to a higher power, but not necessarily. You’re balanced, grounded and whole much of the time, but imbalanced when life becomes stressful.

100-watt: You definitely shine. Others enjoy being in your company. You might be aware of your purpose but it’s more likely that you’re still trying to figure out what it is and who you are. Some aspects of your chosen lifestyle support you, but you have some people, places and things in your life that weigh you down, dim your light and drive you nuts. You understand the power of your thoughts but your environment isn’t always conducive to positivity and optimism. You may or may not have surrendered to a higher power and you are balanced, grounded and whole some of the time, but frequently imbalanced and overwhelmed.

40-watt: There are moments when you shine. People find you lovable once they get to know you. You are either oblivious to your purpose, view it as a pipedream or have no idea where to start. Some of the people, places and things in your life make you feel good (i.e. you might do yoga from time to time, play a musical instrument, love the company of your pets and have some great friends), but your lifestyle doesn’t support you in having enough self-care to really feel the benefits. Your physical and emotional health is not as good as it could be. You might be aware of the power of your thoughts but you’re frequently too worried, depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, hurt, exhausted or angry to do much about it. You may or may not have surrendered to a higher power and you are imbalanced, overwhelmed and broken more often than not.

Depending on where you are in the descriptions above, are there any areas you can focus on to increase your light?

Apart from your light being the most important ingredient in influencing your man, it’s so foundational that all the other ingredients (things you do) won’t matter much without it. So, if you’re a 40, 100 or 200-watt bulb you have some work to do before your light will be powerful enough to inspire change in him on any sort of consistent basis.

Regardless of how radiant your light is right now, commit to yourself that you’ll get out there and SHINE! If you can’t find the motivation on your own, find a coach to help you. No one achieves greatness without support, inspiration, encouragement and effective strategies for change.

Once you’re practising the art of self-care, creating a positive and joyful lifestyle, doing work that you love and spending time with people who inspire and encourage you, you’ll be able to influence your man in the way that you already intuitively know you can.

Even if his world falls apart (i.e. his goldfish dies, he loses his job AND he feels pressured and overburdened by friends, family and neighbors), you’ll remain graceful, steadfast and strong.

You’ll be shining brightly enough to influence the man that loves you to start reaching his potential just as you’re actively reaching yours. You’re always one another’s mirror, but the stronger of the two must go first.

That’s YOU!

The man that belongs to your heart will either follow or find you.